Revealing Your Goal
Sometimes we need our goals to be revealed to us. We may know in some abstract way that we want to spend less time working, more time out doors, more quality time with our families, but we may not know how to get there, as we believe that our wants are somehow incongruent with our need to provide for our household or our future.
Additionally, what we want has been influenced in no small part by our environment, the people with whom we associate, our wider network, etc. Although we cannot escape these influences completely, its valuable to connect with a deeper intrinsic sense of purpose or a strong desire for something that you may have lost touch with. A deeper desire can be based on the premise of freedom, independence, greater choice, flexibility etc.
This step aims to tap into your intrinsic sense of self to determine how we can use it to build your goal.
There are many different ways that you can approach this exercise. We will explore a few questions to stimulate your thinking.
Individual or Team?
The following questions may give you some insight on a subconscious level on whether you thrive more as a solo act, or working with teams.
What sport or game (s) are you most interested in playing or watching?
1) Is it an individual sport? Or a team sport?
2) Is it a cerebral sport?
3) Or is it a physical sport?
How do you recover your energy?
1) Alone at rest.
2) Alone performing some activity
3) With others, socially.
4) With others in high activity.
What are you better at on average than anyone else?
This is one part of finding what the Japanese refer to as your ikigai, and you can read more about it here. https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20170807-ikigai-a-japanese-concept-to-improve-work-and-life
For this, you need to take an inventory of your existing skills. Categorise them into a Ven diagram of the following:
1) The skills you are the best at
2) The skills other people would pay to have
3) The skills that lead me to feel the things I like to feel
4) The skills that the world needs
After this, add another list; that which you are curious to learn.
The ideal situation would be to find a skill that intersects every category, or maybe 3 out of 4 categories.
What do you want to be remembered for?
If your child, partner, parent, sibling or best friend had to introduce you to an audience at some time 5 to 10 years from now, what would you like to be said? Answering this question from the perspective of our loved ones, sometimes helps us to be more generous in our self-view.
Visualise yourself 5 to 10 years from today.
Visualisations, especially when they are so far ahead, can be tricky to construct. To help you build it, think of it through the following parameters:
1) How old are you 5 or 10 years from now, depending on your choice?
2) Describe yourself physically, including the clothes and shoes you may be wearing at this time!
3) If you look back, what have you already accomplished?
4) Where are you?
5) Who is with you?
6) What does it feel like?
7) What does it look like?
8) What does it sound like?
By the end of 2 or 3 of these exercises, you should have a general idea about where you want to go; your goal should be revealing itself. If it doesn’t, get in touch with us for extra support! You can reach us here. Let us know how it goes!